The Don Juan Files
"In his youth in Hungary, said Gyula, he had been a great womanizer. But as he grow older, though he remained as keenly receptive to feminine beauty as ever, the need to make love to women in the flesh receded.(...)
Such outward chastity was possible, he said, because he had mastered the art of conducting love affairs through all its steps, from infatuation to consumation, wholly within his mind"
JM Coetzee, Diary of a bad year
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